Hello There, Thanks in advance for taking the time to visit my new lil spot here in the blogosphere.. Being the OCD control the reins type of gal that I am although I am dying to begin posting some great blogs up here, at the moment I am focusing on tweaking, editing and beautifying Sugar Plums and Dreams and thought in the meantime I would go into my archives and post a lil something I wrote a few years back... I chose this particular post for a few reasons.. first it is very relevant to me at the moment and in the past I have been told that this particular letter inspired a few others to try their hand at the same.and second because this is my way of giving back to the person that finally gave me the courage to believe in myself and my dreams(one of which is Sugar Plums and Dreams). For as long as I can remember I have LoVeD to write, it has never mattered what, I am just as happy making a spring cleaning schedule as I am a short story and a few years ago a mentor and a great friend of mine suggested that I write a letter to my future husband and save it so that one day I could present it to him and he would know in that moment that long before you met him you loved, prayed for and hoped for him to come into your world. Being the hopeless romantic that I am this suggestion was just to intriguing to pass up so one night over a glass of wine I sat down and wrote my letter to my future husband... I hope you enjoy it and would love to see your version of a letter to him....
To You..
I found myself thinking about you today. Wondering where you are, what you’re thinking and doing. It hurts a little not to be with you, but I can live with that for now, knowing that we’ll spend the rest of our lives together. I’m writing this letter to help you understand what I’ve been thinking about and why. I probably don’t know all the right things to say, but my feelings and words are from the heart. Actually, I find myself thinking about you more and more. The very idea of you provides a much-needed break from the pressures of dating, relationships and life. In the midst of it all—the thought of you calms and refreshes me—makes me smile, in spite of my situation and surroundings. I know it sounds crazy, but I picture you—your smile, the way you push my hair behind my ear, your wonderful laugh, even when my jokes aren’t funny. I can’t help but wonder what our children will look like. I can't wait to see the father you will become.
I’ve cared about other men, but something always seems to be missing. I go out and have fun, but the idea of you and our future together is always in my thoughts. It keeps me focused and on track, aware of who I am and what’s important. And loving you, without ever having met you, makes me want to be deserving of your love.You are probably going to find me when I'm not even looking. Or maybe I will find you when you aren’t looking. I believe we will find ourselves on the same path in the future. We will find the path when our hearts are healed. My hope is that when we find each other we will make adjustments, change our routes, and move at the same speed. I hope to spend lazy Saturday mornings in bed with you then spend the evening on the couch watching football. I hope to go on journeys, walks, trips and adventures. I hope to walk across the entire city and only stop for coffee and pictures. I hope to never forget the beginning. I CANT wait to tell our "love story"!!! I hope I’m your decision. I hope we can camp in the backyard, sleep under the stars, plant a garden, play basketball, cook, run and live together. I hope we can share our lives. I hope we can discover, learn and grow together. Mostly I hope you can always find me in the crowd.
I have had so many of my married and engaged friends tell me, “you just know”. Well, I’ll be honest and let you know there were a few times when “I just knew”. Apparently I don’t have the ability to just know when I’ve met “the one” because I’ve been wrong each of these few times. My past relationships have been so important to me because they enabled me to grow and change. I learned what I DID NOT want in a relationship and I also discovered what I do want. I want you and so far you haven’t been the one next to me. I believe all my past relationships and experiences have prepared me for you. You are not my first love. I have been hopelessly and desperately in love before. I’ve been hurt. I’ve been broken. I’ve been left behind and forgotten. After each breakup I picked myself up used all my courage to try again and take that leap of faith. I was able to do this knowing that you were out there. The past has enabled me to love fully and deeply. I’m not afraid to fall in love. I need you to understand that I’ve been involved in some intense, beautiful, spontaneous and unrealistic relationships. I fit with each of my ex-boyfriends. You may not picture me with some of them but you have to understand they were apart of my life. We each fit together in different ways; some fits were better than others. I can’t wait to fit with you in a new way. A different way. A perfect way.
There are so many things I want to tell you and I AM a talker.. I want to share my dreams with you. I want to trust you to listen and to care about what I say,. You are very important to me.
When I think about getting married, I think about much more than just the wedding dress, bridesmaids, flowers, invitations and parties. To me, getting married means sharing the rest of my life with you. Growing old together - 'til death do us part - with a lot of living in between. It means growing and changing and living through the good times as well as the bad. It means loving each other when it is difficult. I look forward to a happy life with you and our children, I catch myself picturing so many of the milestones we will share together, falling in love and learning every little thing about each other, the day you propose, when the day comes that I walk down the aisle to you, you should know that I think about the moment when our eyes meet as I walk towards you very often. I see the day we find out that we are going to become a family, and the moment when we hold our first child, the years to come raising and being a part of a wonderful loving happy family, but I'm not so unrealistic that I think we won't have any problems or difficulties. Those will be the growing times when our love and commitment will be tested, and we will emerge stronger, wiser and more deeply in love. I know that we need each other to be each others rock during these times and I am fully committed to living out each and every day of my life by your side through all the wonderful milestones and the not so easy one. I feel like we have already been chosen for each other. That is so amazing to me! I can hardly wait to meet you, but I know I have to be patient because it will only happen when it is time for us to come together. Until then, I can think about you and pray for you and hope that you are thinking about me and praying for me, too. I hope so much that you are waiting for me just as I am waiting for you.
I believe that it is necessary to know what is important to me and to have some "major" requirements when it comes to selecting my spouse. That way it will be easier for me to recognize you when we meet. The "majors" are basically those few character traits that are absolutely essential to me; traits that I just could not compromise on for any reason. The first "Major" would be unselfishness. I'm not perfect in this area either, but I want both of us to be unselfish. We cannot go through life thinking only of ourselves. We have to be willing to make sacrifices for each other and for our children. We have to be willing to love. That's not always easy, but unless we are committed to a lifetime of loving unselfishly, our marriage will never succeed. We have to be honest too. No marriage can survive without honesty and trust. I know we will spend many hours just talking and learning about each other by sharing our thoughts and our feelings, our hopes, our dreams and our fears. I want us to be very comfortable with each other. I want so much to love you. And, I want you to love me. I want to be cherished, to be the most important person in your life, to be your most intimate friend. I want to be your wife. I want you tenderness and affection, your kindness and you strength. I want to be there for you when you feel happy and on top of the world, and I want to be there when your spirit is crushed. I want to feel protected and secure in your love and to trust you at all times. I want you to feel safe with me and never to be ashamed to talk about your fears and weaknesses. I want to encourage you to stand up for your beliefs and always to do what is right. I want to stand beside you as we go through life together.
I’m not looking for perfection. I know our relationship will be beautiful but far from perfect. Perfection bores me. I know what we have will be real. I know there will be arguments, disagreements and hard times. Despite the obstacles we’ll encounter I know we’ll smile, laugh, dance and love together. If I am reading this to you then you have to know that I never doubted you were out there for me. I can’t wait to hug you, kiss you, hold you and love you. Although I don’t know you yet I can confidently say that I Love You more than you could ever know. The second I realized that you were out there looking for me too you became my world. I can't wait for the day I can give this to you and until then I hope you go through life knowing that I am here and I love you desperately..
Love,
Me....
I found myself thinking about you today. Wondering where you are, what you’re thinking and doing. It hurts a little not to be with you, but I can live with that for now, knowing that we’ll spend the rest of our lives together. I’m writing this letter to help you understand what I’ve been thinking about and why. I probably don’t know all the right things to say, but my feelings and words are from the heart. Actually, I find myself thinking about you more and more. The very idea of you provides a much-needed break from the pressures of dating, relationships and life. In the midst of it all—the thought of you calms and refreshes me—makes me smile, in spite of my situation and surroundings. I know it sounds crazy, but I picture you—your smile, the way you push my hair behind my ear, your wonderful laugh, even when my jokes aren’t funny. I can’t help but wonder what our children will look like. I can't wait to see the father you will become.
I’ve cared about other men, but something always seems to be missing. I go out and have fun, but the idea of you and our future together is always in my thoughts. It keeps me focused and on track, aware of who I am and what’s important. And loving you, without ever having met you, makes me want to be deserving of your love.You are probably going to find me when I'm not even looking. Or maybe I will find you when you aren’t looking. I believe we will find ourselves on the same path in the future. We will find the path when our hearts are healed. My hope is that when we find each other we will make adjustments, change our routes, and move at the same speed. I hope to spend lazy Saturday mornings in bed with you then spend the evening on the couch watching football. I hope to go on journeys, walks, trips and adventures. I hope to walk across the entire city and only stop for coffee and pictures. I hope to never forget the beginning. I CANT wait to tell our "love story"!!! I hope I’m your decision. I hope we can camp in the backyard, sleep under the stars, plant a garden, play basketball, cook, run and live together. I hope we can share our lives. I hope we can discover, learn and grow together. Mostly I hope you can always find me in the crowd.
I have had so many of my married and engaged friends tell me, “you just know”. Well, I’ll be honest and let you know there were a few times when “I just knew”. Apparently I don’t have the ability to just know when I’ve met “the one” because I’ve been wrong each of these few times. My past relationships have been so important to me because they enabled me to grow and change. I learned what I DID NOT want in a relationship and I also discovered what I do want. I want you and so far you haven’t been the one next to me. I believe all my past relationships and experiences have prepared me for you. You are not my first love. I have been hopelessly and desperately in love before. I’ve been hurt. I’ve been broken. I’ve been left behind and forgotten. After each breakup I picked myself up used all my courage to try again and take that leap of faith. I was able to do this knowing that you were out there. The past has enabled me to love fully and deeply. I’m not afraid to fall in love. I need you to understand that I’ve been involved in some intense, beautiful, spontaneous and unrealistic relationships. I fit with each of my ex-boyfriends. You may not picture me with some of them but you have to understand they were apart of my life. We each fit together in different ways; some fits were better than others. I can’t wait to fit with you in a new way. A different way. A perfect way.
There are so many things I want to tell you and I AM a talker.. I want to share my dreams with you. I want to trust you to listen and to care about what I say,. You are very important to me.
When I think about getting married, I think about much more than just the wedding dress, bridesmaids, flowers, invitations and parties. To me, getting married means sharing the rest of my life with you. Growing old together - 'til death do us part - with a lot of living in between. It means growing and changing and living through the good times as well as the bad. It means loving each other when it is difficult. I look forward to a happy life with you and our children, I catch myself picturing so many of the milestones we will share together, falling in love and learning every little thing about each other, the day you propose, when the day comes that I walk down the aisle to you, you should know that I think about the moment when our eyes meet as I walk towards you very often. I see the day we find out that we are going to become a family, and the moment when we hold our first child, the years to come raising and being a part of a wonderful loving happy family, but I'm not so unrealistic that I think we won't have any problems or difficulties. Those will be the growing times when our love and commitment will be tested, and we will emerge stronger, wiser and more deeply in love. I know that we need each other to be each others rock during these times and I am fully committed to living out each and every day of my life by your side through all the wonderful milestones and the not so easy one. I feel like we have already been chosen for each other. That is so amazing to me! I can hardly wait to meet you, but I know I have to be patient because it will only happen when it is time for us to come together. Until then, I can think about you and pray for you and hope that you are thinking about me and praying for me, too. I hope so much that you are waiting for me just as I am waiting for you.
I believe that it is necessary to know what is important to me and to have some "major" requirements when it comes to selecting my spouse. That way it will be easier for me to recognize you when we meet. The "majors" are basically those few character traits that are absolutely essential to me; traits that I just could not compromise on for any reason. The first "Major" would be unselfishness. I'm not perfect in this area either, but I want both of us to be unselfish. We cannot go through life thinking only of ourselves. We have to be willing to make sacrifices for each other and for our children. We have to be willing to love. That's not always easy, but unless we are committed to a lifetime of loving unselfishly, our marriage will never succeed. We have to be honest too. No marriage can survive without honesty and trust. I know we will spend many hours just talking and learning about each other by sharing our thoughts and our feelings, our hopes, our dreams and our fears. I want us to be very comfortable with each other. I want so much to love you. And, I want you to love me. I want to be cherished, to be the most important person in your life, to be your most intimate friend. I want to be your wife. I want you tenderness and affection, your kindness and you strength. I want to be there for you when you feel happy and on top of the world, and I want to be there when your spirit is crushed. I want to feel protected and secure in your love and to trust you at all times. I want you to feel safe with me and never to be ashamed to talk about your fears and weaknesses. I want to encourage you to stand up for your beliefs and always to do what is right. I want to stand beside you as we go through life together.
I’m not looking for perfection. I know our relationship will be beautiful but far from perfect. Perfection bores me. I know what we have will be real. I know there will be arguments, disagreements and hard times. Despite the obstacles we’ll encounter I know we’ll smile, laugh, dance and love together. If I am reading this to you then you have to know that I never doubted you were out there for me. I can’t wait to hug you, kiss you, hold you and love you. Although I don’t know you yet I can confidently say that I Love You more than you could ever know. The second I realized that you were out there looking for me too you became my world. I can't wait for the day I can give this to you and until then I hope you go through life knowing that I am here and I love you desperately..
Love,
Me....
